It pulls me in like crazy

It's like being trapped in a box. Unfortunately, our past experiences have trained us to filter reality through specific events, and every time a situation repeats itself, our brain relies on a bias that shuts down any of our windows of reflection that might consider other variables or scenarios. This is a small reminder for you as you're reading this: not everything is as it seems. Have the courage to question your perspective and open yourself to new hypotheses.